![]() ![]() There are two components of being able to achieve things in a healthy and effective manner-planning and doing. What do the right habits even look like, and where exactly will the procrastinator run into trouble? The procrastinator’s problems run deep, and it takes something more than “being more self-disciplined” or “changing his bad habits” for him to change his ways- the root of the problem is embedded in his Storyline, and his Storyline is what must change.īefore we talk about how Storylines change, let’s examine, concretely, what the procrastinator even wants to change into. For the Want-To-Dos in my life, let’s be honest-I’ll either start one and quit or more likely, I just won’t ever get around to it. The procrastinator’s Storyline goes something like this:įor the Have-To-Dos in my life, I’ll end up waiting until the last minute, panicking, and then either doing less than my best work or shutting down and not doing anything at all. Let’s call this self-fulfilling prophecy his Storyline. The answer is that he has incredibly low confidence when it comes to this part of his life, allowing himself to become enslaved by a self-defeating, self-fulfilling prophecy. So why would an otherwise capable person put forth such a lame and futile effort again and again? He vows to change, but the patterns just stay the same. He continues to have the intention to control the monkey, but he puts forth a hapless effort, using the same proven-not-to-work methods he’s used for years, and deep down, he knows the monkey will win. The procrastinator is in the bad habit, bordering on addiction, of letting the monkey win. ![]() We know about the Instant Gratification Monkey (the part of your brain that makes you procrastinate) and his dominion over the Rational Decision Maker, but what’s really happening there? Let’s begin by trying to unwrap the procrastinator’s psychology and see what’s really at the core of things: But this week, when we’re actually trying to do something about it, we need to dig even deeper. This post was posted late, not only because it took me 2,000 years to do, but also because I decided that Monday night was an urgent time to open Google Earth, hover a few hundred feet above the southern tip of India, and scroll all the way up India to the top of the country, to “get a better feel for India.” I have problems.Īlright, so last week we dove into the everyday inner struggle of the procrastinator to examine the underlying psychology going on.I’m still in a total battle with my own habits, but I have made some progress in the last few years, and I’m drawing my thoughts from what’s worked for me. I’m not a professional at any of this, just a lifelong procrastinator who thinks about this topic all the time.I’ve spent the last two weeks being this guy, who shoots himself in the foot while talking about gun safety, and I look forward to getting back to irony-free procrastination following this post. Let me start by saying that I’ve had just about enough of the irony of battling through crippling procrastination while trying to write posts on procrastination and how to beat it. The action of ruining your own life for no apparent reason PDF: We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. You won’t get Part 2 if you haven’t read Part 1 yet. ![]()
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